【Sweetheart Lover】

Chapter 209: Children's rebellious period, education issues highlighted

As time went by, the child gradually grew up and entered a rebellious period. The originally well-behaved and obedient child began to become willful and stubborn, often talking back to Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan.

It was a weekend afternoon. The sunlight shone through the window onto the living room floor. What should have been a warm and peaceful moment was broken by a fierce quarrel.

"I want to go out and play, why don't you let me go!" The child's voice was full of anger and dissatisfaction.

Lin Yanan frowned and tried to persuade the child: "How can you go out to play when you haven't finished your homework yet? Finish your homework first."

"I don't care. My classmates are all playing outside, but I am locked at home to do my homework!" the child shouted, "You don't understand me at all!" Then he turned around and slammed the door and went into his room, leaving Lin Yanan in the living room with tears in her eyes.

When Ruan Jianan got home from get off work, he saw his wife sitting on the sofa crying silently. He felt nervous and quickly put down his briefcase. He walked over and asked softly, "Honey, what happened?"

Lin Yanan raised her head and looked at Ruan Jianan, her voice trembling a little: "Why is the child like this now? I just asked him to finish his homework before going out to play, and he got so angry. I don't know how to control him."

Ruan Jianan sighed, patted Lin Yanan's shoulder gently, and comforted her: "Don't be too sad, the child is in a rebellious period, this is normal. We have to be patient and communicate with him well."

After dinner, Ruan Jianan came to the door of the child's room and knocked gently: "Son, can Dad come in and talk to you?"

There was no response from the room, but Ruan Jianan still opened the door and walked in. The child was lying on the bed with his back to the door, ignoring Ruan Jianan's arrival.

Ruan Jianan walked to the bed, sat down, and said softly: "Son, Dad knows you think mom and dad are too strict with you, but we are all doing this for your own good. You must complete your homework. This is your responsibility for your studies."

The child sat up suddenly and shouted at Ruan Jianan: "You just say you are doing this for my own good, but you don't know what I want at all! I study every day and I don't have any freedom at all!"

Ruan Jianan said patiently: "Son, learning is to give you more choices in the future and a better life. But Dad also knows that you need to relax. We can discuss a reasonable schedule."

"Discuss? You won't listen to me at all!" said the child, then lay down again and covered his head with the quilt.

Ruan Jianan shook his head helplessly and walked out of the room.

In the following days, the child's communication with them was not smooth. The child always turned a deaf ear to their words and even deliberately did things that made them angry. For example, he secretly brought his mobile phone to school, played games in class and was caught by the teacher; or he hung out with some classmates with poor grades and came home very late.

"I don't want to go to school anymore!" The child once again made an unreasonable request.

Lin Yanan almost fainted after hearing this: "What nonsense are you talking about! What can you do if you don't go to school?"

"What's the point of going to school? I think everything is fine now." The child said stubbornly.

Ruan Jianan was also anxious: "Son, you can't think like that. Going to school is for you to learn knowledge and have a bright future."

"I don't want to be anything special. I just want to do what I want to do." The child's attitude remains firm.

Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan felt very troubled. They knew that they couldn't let their child go on like this, but they didn't know how to guide him out of his rebellious period.

In order to find a solution, Lin Yanan began to read various books on youth education, attended parent seminars, and consulted other experienced parents. Ruan Jianan communicated with the child's teacher to understand the child's performance and psychological state in school.

One day, Lin Yanan read a case in a book about a parent who strengthened his relationship with his child by participating in outdoor activities with his child, thus solving his child's rebellious problem. Lin Yanan thought he could give it a try.

On the weekend, Lin Yanan said to his child, "Son, how about we go hiking together this weekend?"

The child looked confused: "Climbing a mountain? I don't want to go."

"Just think of it as accompanying your mother out to relax, okay?" Lin Yanan looked at the child with expectant eyes.

The child hesitated for a moment, but finally agreed.

During the climbing process, the child was silent at first, but as the mountain road became more and more difficult to walk on, Lin Yanan and the child supported each other and overcame one difficulty after another together.

Finally we reached the top of the mountain. Looking at the beautiful scenery, the child seemed to be in a much better mood.

Lin Yanan took the opportunity to say, "Son, you see, just like when we climb a mountain, although the process is very hard, but when we reach the top and see such a beautiful scenery, we will feel that everything is worth it. The same is true for studying. Although sometimes it may feel very tiring and difficult, as long as you persist, you will gain something."

The child was silent for a while and then said, "Mom, I know you are doing this for my own good, but I am really under a lot of pressure."

Lin Yanan held the child's hand and said, "Son, if you have any ideas in the future, tell your parents and we will solve them together."

Since then, the child's attitude has gradually changed. Although he still has a temper occasionally, it is no longer as extreme as before. Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan also pay more attention to the way they communicate with their children and respect their children's ideas. The family relationship has gradually become harmonious.

However, a new problem arose. The child had a conflict with his classmates at school and even got into a fight. The teacher called Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan to school.

"Your child has been emotionally unstable recently. This fight with his classmates has a very bad impact," the teacher said seriously.

Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan apologized repeatedly and took the children back home.

"Why do you want to fight with your classmates?" Ruan Jianan asked.

The child lowered his head and said nothing.

Lin Yanan sighed: "Son, it's wrong for you to do this. Can't you just talk about your problem?"

The child suddenly raised his head and cried, "They said I had no father or mother to take care of me and was a wild child."

Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan felt a pang of pain when they heard this. They realized that their children's rebellion was not only due to the psychological changes of adolescence, but also because they did not pay enough attention to their children because of their busy work.

Since then, Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan decided to adjust their work schedules to spend more time with their children. They attended parent-teacher conferences together, helped their children with homework and played together. With their efforts, their children finally got through their rebellious period, became sensible and obedient, and their academic performance gradually improved.

Lin Yanan and Ruan Jianan are very pleased to see their children's changes. They know how important it is for parents to accompany and guide their children in their growth process.